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Dan Foster
03-23-2007, 07:02 AM
About 4 months ago my wife and I had a baby. Before the baby I was CF and Zoning religiously. Now with the baby I have not worked out, my eating has been crap and the sleep is horrible.I have made an attempt to get back into the swing of things and each time I have failed.I work 7:30 till 4:30 and then I watch my daugther in the evening while my wife works.I also do BJJ Sunday,Monday and Friday, Saturday. Any tips you guys can give me to get my self back into training with my busy schedule.My goal is to try and do the worlds in July.

joe murphy
03-23-2007, 11:06 AM
congrats on the baby.

but you're pretty much screwed for a couple years. sorry.

Jesse Woody
03-23-2007, 11:58 AM
Buy a pull-up bar for the house, some rings, and build some parallettes. A sandbag or kettlebell would also be a good choice. When you're at the house, watching the kid, take the 5 or 10 minutes you have and throw together a workout. Mix it up, bust your ass and make it count. When they're babies it's MUCH easier to make the time than when they're 2-5 and can move around. You have limited time, so don't slack off in those windows that you create. In the time it took you to log onto the internet and post up, you could have done 50 burpees, which is better than nothing!

As for the diet...you have to find your own motivation...shopping and making food ahead of time helps a lot, but it's still a pain in the ass. I definitely feel you there, as I work from 6:30AM - 8:00PM every day. To top it off, I have the kids here at the gym while my wife works, so I have to take care of keeping them busy and fed while working with clients. It's a balancing act, and if you let yourself get behind it's hard to get back on top. Sit down and make a plan, work out the shopping etc. on Sunday, cook a bunch of everything and find some portable options and go balls to the wall with it, just like a workout.

Good luck!

Mike ODonnell
03-23-2007, 12:01 PM
Ha...I think what Joe meant to say is....take it slow and one thing at a time...if you take a small step each day/week...you can make tremendous progress in a year....don't try to do all or nothing....that is a guaranteed way to fail.

#1 start with getting nutrition back on track...85% of weight loss or gain will come from that...plus the right nutrition will give you more energy to take on other tasks....Get 1 or 2 workouts planned for the week....and then fit them in when you can....you have to do at least 1 workout a week, don't make excuses just make time somewhere. Progress those 1-2 workouts, along with eating the right way will get you great results. Use small parts of the day to practice or GTG as they say.....do 10 pushups every hour.....do 5 pullups every time you walk past the pullup bar.....etc.....it can happen, just make a lifestyle out of it.

Again....take small steps...start every day with a plan...never "wing it"....even if you just have 1 goal a day....accomplish that goal....then make another the next day...and the next.....in a month you accomplished 30 goals.....as opposed to writing down 30 goals at once and carrying that huge overwhelming list around with you...you will be lucky to do 1 or 2 in a month. (You don't sit down and write a novel...you write one page a day...and have a novel done in a year.)

Dan Foster
03-23-2007, 12:13 PM
thanks guys and keep them coming. I do have a pull-up bar and kb's already. I have to remind my self to take it easy and not to try and go all out right away.

Mike ODonnell
03-23-2007, 12:19 PM
Use the 80/20 rule

80% of your results come from 20% of what is on your to do list
the other 80% only gives you 20% of your results

Prioritize and simplify to focus only on the 20% that yield 80%.....ignore everything else....

or something like that....either way, start your day with 10 min of goal planning....even if one goal...keep it simple...live your day and feel great that you accomplished your goal......repeat every day for the rest of your life....you will succeed at anything you try.

Dave Van Skike
03-23-2007, 02:24 PM
Congratulations. You are so.....


A couple quick things. Mike and Jessie are giving good advice. However, I would propose a couple alternatives. remember, your job just changed, if you don't remember that, the little squirts will remind you. Nap early and often. eat right as much as you can. Schedule workouts with mom but don't worry if the plan breaks down. Flexibility is your key to survival. Supple like a reed, hard like a diamond..

Your BJJ schedule sounds solidly worked out so, you just want to tag onto that. Don't try to add a bunch more new time commitments

As far as the day to day goes, here are some things that got me through.
Pull-ups, lots of em.
grease the groove with heavy lifts that tax your core, windmills work well.
Get outside, a workout is great but sometimes you just need a walk.
Weighted vest plus baby stroller, or a baby backpack.
you'll look like a suicide bomber but it will work to keep you frosty.
Did I mention napping? Yeah, do that. Try to superset 15 minute naps with kettlebell swings.

Don't forget mom, she will need lots of the same things you'll need only cubed.

Ken Urakawa
03-23-2007, 05:08 PM
I'm feeling your pain, Dan! Jesse hit it on the head, though--if you can fight through the sleep deprivation, it's a lot easier to work out with an infant than a toddler. Wait until you have 2...then it really gets fun. All you can do is just take advantage of whatever time you have.

And Dave is right on (and not just about the Foxtrot). Enjoy this time while they still nap frequently. Short bursts of activity will help keep you going, too.

One thing you could try is to set workout goals for yourself for the month/week--make it realistic, but then commit to those goals. Break it into daily goals--"I will do 5 minutes of kettlebell swings and 5 minutes of pullups today." And then budget it into your timeline.

Good luck to you, sir!

Frank Needham
03-23-2007, 05:27 PM
I've got a 20 yr old daughter and an 8 mth old son. Time to cowboy up for you my friend. Here's my short list for you:
1) Get used to being tired.
2) Work out before everyone else is up.
3) Plan and cook meals ahead. Using a slow-cooker is a good skill to learn.
4) All other time is no longer really yours.
It depends a great deal on your situation. My wife is amazing. Anyone that can get up 2-4 times a night to breastfeed, work the next day, not get sick doing it, and put up with me is not from this world. I go to school 3 nights a week and study on weekends mostly to boot. You'll figure it out, or kick trying....

Yael Grauer
03-23-2007, 09:59 PM
Get yourself a copy of Never Gymless!! It will help.

Allen Yeh
03-26-2007, 07:48 AM
I have a 20 month old son along with 8 and 12 year old stepsons. It's been rough making the adjustment and it still can be a struggle. In the last few months my eating has gotten a LOT better and I'm currently experimenting with IF. With your schedule as packed as it is, perhaps a time compressed eating schedule would be easier. Rather than trying to fit in 3 Zone meals + 3 Zone snacks per day.

In terms of training, I've found I get my best workouts in if I do them on lunch break or before I get a chance to get comfortable when I get home. If I wait too long after I get home I just get sucked in to whoever needs whatever at the time. I personally can't see the early morning thing only because I'm typically at work between 5-6am. It may work for you though...I'd try it if I got to work any later.

Something else that I've found helpful and maybe it's just the way I'm built....I like to have structure! Or a goal....meaning when I have a written in stone program of what I want done it is more likely to be done than if I just know I need to workout but nothing concrete down.

Mark Fenner
04-09-2007, 08:20 PM
Dan and Allen,

It's good to see people in the same boat that my wife and I will be in, in about 6 weeks (or so). We both very much believe that that best way to parent is "by example". Don't want your kid to overeat ... don't overeat (and don't overfeed early on). Want your kids to be physically fit and active. Bingo ... do things (together) to be fit and active. I know some of this is a bit down the road, with respect to an infant, but you also have to establish the habits early.

Anyway, I'll be checking in on your sanity, Dan -- and hoping for the best.