I'm probably belaboring the point but since I suffer from the same thing, Kevin, maybe it will be helpful.
You don't actually need more than your fingertips to have the bar in a racked position. The bar sinks into your delts and isn't going to go anywhere. Even when you jerk it, you just need the first half of your fingers on it since you can grip it as it rises into full extension. You're not using your hands to lift it off your shoulders.
I don't know whether this will hold you back with really heavy weights but it works well enough for me to practice even if I am very stiff.