I'll second Greg .
I'll repeat - if your goals are more appearance based, then try t-nation. They have a woman's section. They do a lot of stuff that's about weights and appearance, and even a little performance, and lots in between. But they're self declared all about "looking good nekkid."
"Society wants this..." insercurity, bitchiness, what some book says we're being told, the sophomoric obsessions of appearance self-obession... evidence for the need for squat therapy.
Go find a barbell, get under it, and lift it. Then make it heavier. The barbell doesn't care about any of that bullshit you might be thinking about, about what you think society makes you think, about how you can be empowered or subvert the dominant paradigm, or any other bullshit notion.
One bar, one person. Lift.
If you've never read this... http://www.naturalstrength.com/weigh...?ArticleID=168